Relationships are challenging for everyone. When one or both of the partners is neurodiverse, those challenges can be complicated. I have spent over 20 years working with neurodiverse couples and can bring new insight into your relationship.
We will start with individual sessions for each partner. Individual sessions can be done either over phone or video link. When it’s time to practice a new technique, the three of us will get together using video. Then we will schedule individual sessions again. In this way, each partner can learn and incorporate the solutions that they have to offer.
Regardless of who may or may not be on the autism spectrum, the best way to create the loving, caring, healthy and supportive relationship that you want is for both partners to learn new skills.
I have had people come to me hoping that I will work with their spouse, partner, family member or employee, hoping that I will change them to be more like how they want them to be. This is not going to work because life coaching was not designed to change anyone’s personality, especially not in response to someone else’s wishes.
If you’re in a close relationship that’s not working for you and you want the dynamics of that relationship to change, both individuals in the relationship need to work together to learn new interaction patterns. If one person, usually the one recognized as neurodiverse, is taking the sole blame for a dysfunctional relationship, the relationship is unlikely to improve no matter how hard the neurodiverse person works to change it. Good relationships require everyone involved to work together to design healthy ways of interacting. Usually a couple’s therapist is your best option for that kind of work.
I’m here to support you both, as you create the relationship you’ve always wanted.
Here’s more about how life coaching works, and once you’re ready, contact Kristina to sign up.